If you can’t say anything nice…
3PM Eastern Sunday May 5.
Zoom link https://zoom.us/j/433446560
Ouch! That was a direct hit! Did I really just call myself a loser? Berate myself for feeling awkward during that meeting? Ridicule myself for binge-watching Netflix instead of going for a walk? Whose voice is that in my head? It might have started out as a critical parent but you’ve long since taken over the job.
“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” This is a common saying and generally accepted as good advice. The trouble is, we apply this mostly to our outside voice and give our inner critic free rein.
“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle,
but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
― Brene Brown
Mindfulness and being a witness to our mind can be disheartening when we have an active judge sitting on our shoulder, eagerly awaiting a chance to shame us. This toxic self-talk grinds us down and reinforces untrue core deficiency beliefs from childhood. We struggle in an atmosphere of pressure and self-aggression.
Becoming aware of negative self-talk is the first step in ending it. Cultivating kindness and compassion for ourselves creates a fertile ground for turning this around.
I am now always on my own side. I understand the process of shaming and why it happens. I cultivate patience and kindness with myself.
I know specific practices that will support you in becoming a true friend to yourself. It IS possible!
Join us Sunday May 5th at 3PM Eastern for this month’s program in Mindfulness, Self-Compassion and Healing Trauma. Cost $12 per session or $99US for the full year.