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I’m Not Giving Up

I’m Not Giving Up

“I’m not talking about blind optimism when I’m talking about hope. I’m talking about hope in the face of uncertainty. Hope in the face of difficulty. That sensibility is something I’ve found very valuable. The people I intend to admire

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Kindness For Our Younger Self

Kindness For Our Younger Self

Listen here if you prefer. Kindness and connection are foundations for healing. We do connect with others, but connecting with ourselves, inviting our exiled parts home, comes first. Without that, we can’t be authentic and risk sharing who we really

fraser-admin October 7, 2020October 7, 2020 Compassion, Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, relax, Resilience, Somatic Read more

Fawning: A Trauma Response

Fawning:  A Trauma Response

We are vulnerable to powerful people who can make us feel that we are safer under their protection. Young athletes having sex with a coach or college students with professors shows the power of being singled out as promising and

Lane August 25, 2020August 31, 2020 Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Trauma Read more

Like your softest, most comfortable shirt …

Like your softest, most comfortable shirt …

We’ve had the rug pulled out from under our feet. Within one week in March, everything suddenly changed leaving us afraid and upset. Three weeks ago we reached a breaking point around police brutality against Black people. Millions of people

Lane June 17, 2020June 24, 2020 Addiction, Coronaviris, Inquiry, mindfulness, Uncategorized Read more

It Feels Like Grief

It Feels Like Grief

Off and on during the two months since the pandemic really landed in North America, I have noticed a heaviness in my chest. When I sit with it, it feels like grief: for people dying alone in hospitals without their

Lane May 20, 2020July 7, 2020 Community, Coronaviris, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Thought, Trauma Read more

The Best and Worst

The Best and Worst

If there was ever a time when it matters how other people think and behave, it is now! All cultures have a version of the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Individually we

Lane May 13, 2020May 13, 2020 Coronaviris, Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Trauma Read more

Mama Bear Energy

Mama Bear Energy

Don’t get between a mother bear and her cubs! Her protection is swift and merciless. If she sees you as a threat, she takes you out. Our fierce inner protector has more options than the mama bear standing on her

Lane April 15, 2020April 15, 2020 Addiction, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resistance, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

If I were free…

If I were free…

What comes to mind when you think of someone who is free? Free to be themselves. Free from fear and shame. Someone who doesn’t second guess themselves. Someone who isn’t afraid to be authentic. Take a few minutes now to

Lane January 22, 2020January 22, 2020 Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Understanding how we work Read more

Kindness is All It Takes to Heal

Kindness is All It Takes to Heal

There are two things I say that people are skeptical about or outright don’t believe.  The first is that looking at our lives through a trauma lens reveals that most of our reactivity, compulsive thinking, anxiety, depression, fear and dread

Lane January 15, 2020January 15, 2020 Healing, Inquiry, relax, Resilience, Understanding how we work Read more

Calming Social Anxiety

Calming Social Anxiety

When we feel afraid or anxious, we are responding to a threat. When we experience social anxiety, we are almost always responding to the abundance of associations & memories from past social interactions.  We have a primitive brain and survival

Lane December 18, 2019December 18, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Kind and Compassionate With Ourselves

Kind and Compassionate With Ourselves

We have an understandable and not helpful mechanism of blaming and pushing ourselves. We think this will help us fix things. It is rooted in our survival instinct and primitive brain. When we are children, we blame ourselves for everything

Lane November 20, 2019November 20, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, Uncategorized, Understanding how we work Read more

Mary Oliver, One Wild and Precious Life

Mary Oliver, One Wild and Precious Life

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” Summer Day, by Mary Oliver Mary Oliver was someone who was very tuned in to her system and to the natural world. Many of her poems

Lane September 11, 2019September 11, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

I’m a Small-town Girl

I’m a Small-town Girl

I am a small-town girl from Saskatchewan, a prairie province in Canada that most people wouldn’t know how to pronounce let alone know where it is. I grew up in a home where I was well cared for physically. No

Lane August 21, 2019August 31, 2019 Addiction, Healing, Meditation, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Use Your Body to Calm Catastrophic Thinking

Use Your Body to Calm Catastrophic Thinking

What is happening right now in the space your body is occupying? There are sense perceptions, of the air or clothes on your skin, sounds, wetness in your mouth and the movement of your body with your breath. Are you

Lane July 10, 2019July 26, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought, Trauma Read more

Inner Critic

Inner Critic

Do you have an inner critic that is always on the lookout for anything you’ve done wrong? That ridicules and shames you for the smallest mistake? That drives you to be perfect and doesn’t let you rest? Would you like

Lane May 8, 2019May 8, 2019 Inquiry, mindfulness, Shame, Thought, Trauma Read more

Mindfulness Inquiry

Mindfulness Inquiry

Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Mindfulness meditation is the awareness that arises from paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally”. Mindfulness is an intimate witnessing. We are having an experience at the same time as we are aware of the

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Resilient and Strong Enough

Resilient and Strong Enough

This week in our daily practice, we have been inquiring into resilience and strength. How does that show up in your body? Is there a toughness or shielding in your neck, shoulders and upper back? See if it feels okay

fraser-admin August 16, 2018August 16, 2018 Happiness, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought Read more

Hugging Ourselves

Hugging Ourselves

How do you support yourself? How do you create more ease in your body? We have reflexive responses in our body, like our shoulders coming up to our ears and tightness in the back of our neck. When we really

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FREE In Person Every Day. Join Me 8:00am Eastern for Guided Meditation, Relaxation and Inquiry

FREE In Person Every Day. Join Me 8:00am Eastern for Guided Meditation, Relaxation and Inquiry

Meditate with me every day 8:00am Eastern Live on Zoom #645 904 638.  It’s free, come join. PASSCODE 397228 It’s free! I meet with people daily online for guided practices exploring: Breathe, Relax, Heal. Many of the meditations are here. My pre and

Lane April 24, 2018February 24, 2021 Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, mindfulness, Uncategorized Read more

Committing to my body

Committing to my body

My drive for emotional safety overpowered care for my body. We have many words to describe the very common dissociation of ourselves from our bodies. “She’s stuck in her head.” “I live from the neck up.” We feel like we

fraser-admin April 18, 2018April 18, 2018 Addiction, Healing, mindfulness, Recovery, Trauma Read more

Join me in Calgary and Red Deer

Lynn Fraser Stillpoint

I’m excited to be heading back home to Alberta this week. Most of my work and community meets online. I also treasure these opportunities to meet in person. Friends With Your Mind, How To Stop Torturing Yourself With Your Thoughts

fraser-admin February 5, 2018April 26, 2018 Community, Healing, Thought, Trauma Read more

Speaking Truth to Bullshit

Speak Truth to Bullshit. Be civil.

In Brene Brown’s extraordinary book Braving the Wilderness, she has a chapter called “Speak truth to bullshit. Be civil.” She speaks about truth in our interactions with other people and points to what is happening inside. Shame can be triggered

fraser-admin January 24, 2018January 25, 2018 Happiness, Healing, mindfulness, Shame Read more

Connection and Safety

Connection and Safety

What stops you from being authentic? From taking a risk and sharing who you really are with someone? Past experience is a factor. We’ve all taken those risks and been shut down. We’ve tried to connect. Sometimes it has worked.

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Silent Kindness Retreat

Silent Kindness Retreat

December 1, 2015 was the 1st day of continuous live online practices. On December 1, 2017 we celebrated with a 24 hour silence retreat. A more accurate name would be a Silent Kindness Retreat. I encouraged everyone to use this

fraser-admin December 3, 2017December 3, 2017 Happiness, Meditation, mindfulness, relax Read more

Connection is the Essence of Safety

Dr Gabor Mate Compassionate Inquiry

“Connection is the essence of safety.” Dr Gabor Maté I was just in Toronto for a two day Compassionate Inquiry workshop with Dr Maté. There were 450 of us in a large Cineplex theatre yet he easily held a space

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Seeing Ourselves

Seeing Ourselves

  Seeing ourselves intimately is the beginning, middle and end of our healing journey. In our Friends With The Mind course this week, I shared at the end what I now know to be true.  We are all basically good

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What Does The Heart Know?

What Does The Heart Know?

What does the heart know? We are one unified system: our body, breath, thoughts; what we know in our head and what we know in our heart. It might be the big question in our life. What am I here

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I’m Not Bad? But the evidence …

I’m Not Bad? But the evidence …

Read below or listen here (2:45 minutes) We develop beliefs based on experience. If our primary experience in childhood is that we are loved and cared for, that we are part of a family unit we feel safe in, that

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Be Yourself!

Be Yourself!

Why are some people so sensitive to other people’s opinions and judgments of them? Watch this clip from my interview with Dr Gabor Maté. People with PTSD are more susceptible to other people’s opinions of them than people who haven’t

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Triggered

Triggered

Do your best AND let go of the results of your actions. According to the ancients, this is the recipe for a well-lived and happy life.  We know intuitively that hanging on leads to suffering, yet often we can’t let go.

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Empathy

Empathy

What is this moment like from someone else’s eyes? There are so many ways we can work with this idea of shifting our perspective. I’m feeling hot and tired while waiting at a checkout. I finally get near the front

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Confidence to Stay Present With Energy

Confidence to Stay Present With Energy

The thing we’ve been avoiding all this time through addictions is just our own system wanting to warn us or protect us. When we have the direct experience of that, everything becomes workable. Most of us don’t want to be

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Heartfelt

What does the Heart know?

We long for authentic connection within. To feel and move through life without defending ourselves against emotional hurt. To relax and let go of our experiences that have turned into beliefs that harden our hearts. We long for authentic connection

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Your Life Without Shame

Your Life Without Shame

Shaming is meant to correct behavior. It is a way for societies to let their young people know what is acceptable in their culture and what is not. Shaming is experienced as a survival level threat because the punishment can

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The “Really??!!” Diet

The “Really??!!” Diet

Our habits and minds have so much momentum. This shows up in the way we take the edge off what we’re feeling or escape the present moment through some kind of comforting or addictive behavior. I have been using the word

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Healing Shame

Healing Shame

Shame works on a continuum from healthy to toxic. Shaming is used by all cultures to let people know the rules so they can fit in. Shaming feels intense because we must belong in order to survive. Children die if

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"I am really enjoying Lynn's small group for women healing trauma. We are a mix of UK and US and Canadian women which means I'm "meeting" people I wouldn't normally, and hearing their experiences. Lynn leads and explains practices, and you can share your experiences, or something of your life in the last week and listen to the others. Lynn's support and advice to you personally and to the others is really amazing. And she shares all sorts of helpful resources throughout as well." ~ Cait

Lynn has been an influential facilitator for me in my own personal journey in learning how to be free of unnecessary suffering and in my journey of awareness. She is a warm, present, caring, kind teacher of meditation, trauma healing, inquiry, and presence practice. Daniela Hess, Director and Educator, Yoga Farm Ithaca

I want to personally thank Lynn Fraser for the amazing work she has done for the Kiloby Center for Recovery’s Radical Recovery Summit. Lynn has worked tirelessly as our interviewer for RRS. She does it because of her love of this work and her wonderfully compassionate spirit. She has interviewed many of the most innovative leaders in the field of addiction recovery. Lynn, you have advanced the treatment of trauma and addiction. That’s a great service to the world. Thank you, on behalf of myself and everyone at the Kiloby Center, as well as the thousands of people you have helped through your own teaching and facilitating. Lynn is a great teacher and facilitator in her own right. ~ Scott Kiloby

“Lynn is unwavering in her dedication and commitment to healing the nervous system using her unique blend of body-mind practices and insightful inquiry. She humbly exhibits extensive knowledge, understanding and wisdom related to trauma. What mostly calls me to work with her, however, is because I trust her. Over the past year during group and individual online sessions her warm and compassionate presence and supportive listening style has encouraged me to vulnerably risk continuing on the healing journey, build nervous system resilience and develop greater levels of joy in my life.” ~ Alyson Adashko Raskin, Ph.D, School Psychologist, Neurogenic Yoga and TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) provider, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach

“As a 53-year-old survivor of childhood trauma, I’ve done more than my share of therapy in search of a greater understanding of myself. It wasn’t until I did a trauma education course with Lynn followed by deep exploratory work using the Living Inquiries that I can say that I found what I had been looking for. Lynn has an incredible aptitude for teaching, facilitating the Inquiries and, last but not least, offering connection and hope. I’m very grateful for the work we have done together.” S.

“I could see myself walking on the beach as a person just walking on the beach, not as a person who eats compulsively walking on the beach. Your class and words were so helpful to me on my healing journey. I don’t know if I would have recovered as quickly. That first class just helped me face it and breath into it. And now I can think of it without all that hurt and fear. So very grateful for finding you!!” K.

“I am grateful for Lynn’s sensitivity, integrity and skill as she holds the space for me to feel the fear I’ve unknowingly avoided my entire life. Lynn’s gentle intelligent guidance through inquiry has helped release the velcro that kept my thoughts welded to my gut-wrenching feelings. That welding, that glue drove my self-defeating behaviour. Anyone considering this work could only benefit from Lynn’s compassion and expertise.” L.

“I realized during these practices that I cannot tolerate silence when with other people. I feel I have to start jabbering away to fill in the empty space. Upon meditating about this, what came up for me was when my parents were fighting (often) and yelling at each other, what followed was silence (sometimes for days and days) which as a child was very threatening to me. I have sat with this realization several times and come to the understanding that silence can be safe, comfortable and non-threatening. I totally enjoy listening to others conversations and have resisted the urge to fill in the silent spaces. I am learning so very much from our daily practices and your workshops. I cannot express enough how much I appreciate and thank you for your wise knowledge, honesty and the kindness and patience you show us.” W.

Emotional Flashbacks. This video is truly life changing for me! I turned 40 a month ago & the way you explained this in just a 12 minute video, I NOW understand what the root cause of the unworthiness I've felt my entire life is/was.. I'm having quite a bit of thoughts running through my mind, but I FEEL Liberation & Freedom from the weight I've been carrying for so long... tears of happiness!! I can't thank you enough for doing what you do & making these videos accessible to everyone! I AM WORTHY & not just trying to convince myself that I am... freedom tears 💜J.

Thank you for Radial Recovery Summit. I learned so much about trauma, addiction, and recovery. Thank you, Lynn, for facilitating this amazing event. You did a superb job pulling this event together as well as interviewing the speakers. I look forward to next year's Radical Recovery Summit so I can learn more from such knowledgeable recovery experts sharing their personal experiences and knowledge. S.

I love everything i've heard from Lynn Fraser. She knows how to weave the latest of science based information on how our nervous systems work in with practical easy to follow steps. (also great info graphics). It's not even like you're hearing a technical lecture on a complex subject. (but I know because I'm studying the nervous system science and trauma healing and it is complex). She is skilled at taking the important key information from science and her experience and presenting it in a way that the mind likes to understand and how you can actually put that information into practice. Angela MacLeod

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