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I’m Not Giving Up

I’m Not Giving Up

“I’m not talking about blind optimism when I’m talking about hope. I’m talking about hope in the face of uncertainty. Hope in the face of difficulty. That sensibility is something I’ve found very valuable. The people I intend to admire

fraser-admin December 14, 2020December 15, 2020 Community, Compassion, Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

NYC is empty

NYC is empty

Do you feel deep down that if you don’t worry, you’ll forget about the threat and accidentally enjoy yourself then boom – it will blindside you? Do you equate worry with taking action? Worry is one of our many trauma

Lane August 19, 2020August 25, 2020 Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Resistance, Thought Read more

Throwing Out the Rules

Throwing Out the Rules

What would happen if you had no rules about being a good person, a nice person, or a valuable person? Would you naturally care about people? Would you want to be decent and kind?  What would you do with your

Lane June 3, 2020June 3, 2020 Community, Happiness, Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Somatic, Thought, Understanding how we work Read more

It Feels Like Grief

It Feels Like Grief

Off and on during the two months since the pandemic really landed in North America, I have noticed a heaviness in my chest. When I sit with it, it feels like grief: for people dying alone in hospitals without their

Lane May 20, 2020July 7, 2020 Community, Coronaviris, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Thought, Trauma Read more

This is NOT the Time to Meditate

This is NOT the Time to Meditate

“I sit down to meditate and my mind explodes with catastrophic thinking. I don’t get a moment’s peace from my mean inner critic. What’s the matter with me? I even fail at sitting still with nothing to do.”  Said by every

Lane October 23, 2019October 23, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought, Uncategorized Read more

Use Your Body to Calm Catastrophic Thinking

Use Your Body to Calm Catastrophic Thinking

What is happening right now in the space your body is occupying? There are sense perceptions, of the air or clothes on your skin, sounds, wetness in your mouth and the movement of your body with your breath. Are you

Lane July 10, 2019July 26, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought, Trauma Read more

Friends With My Body? Really?

Friends With My Body? Really?

Do you feel good will towards your body? Do you love your body? Could you be friends with your body? For most of us the answer is complicated, embedded with lots of history and memories of past experiences. One of

Lane June 27, 2019June 27, 2019 Addiction, relax, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

Inner Critic

Inner Critic

Do you have an inner critic that is always on the lookout for anything you’ve done wrong? That ridicules and shames you for the smallest mistake? That drives you to be perfect and doesn’t let you rest? Would you like

Lane May 8, 2019May 8, 2019 Inquiry, mindfulness, Shame, Thought, Trauma Read more

3 Levels of Direct Experience

3 Levels of Direct Experience

Do we actually need that ongoing commentary about our experience? What are the sensations in your neck and shoulders? Contracted and tight? Painful? Soft and comfortable? Are your shoulders up around your ears? When you let your shoulders become a

fraser-admin March 20, 2019March 20, 2019 Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Thought Read more

Wisdom and Intuition

Wisdom and Intuition

We have 3 brains: head, heart and gut. 80% of messages flow upward to the brain in the head. Only when we quiet the cacophony of internal noise from stress and anxiety can we hear our own intuition and wisdom. 

fraser-admin February 27, 2019February 27, 2019 Happiness, Inquiry, Thought Read more

Velcro and Teflon

Velcro and Teflon

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say “I love you” without cringing? If not, why not? What are the obstacles to loving and connecting with yourself? Why are so many people at war with themselves? Emotional self

Lane February 14, 2019February 14, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

A New Year

A New Year

We have moved through the longest night, the December winter solstice and now add a few minutes of light each day. The cold here this time of year combined with the small incremental change in daylight hides this from view.

fraser-admin January 1, 2019January 1, 2019 Community, Happiness, Healing, Meditation, Thought Read more

My Biggest Fan

I Am My Biggest Fan

I love you. I support you. I’m on your side.  What gets in the way of connecting with yourself? Of being your own supporter and friend?  It feels sad to me when we can’t be our own biggest fan, when

fraser-admin December 19, 2018December 20, 2018 Community, Happiness, Inquiry, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

The Key to Freedom

The Key to Freedom

The energy, sensations and feelings in our body are a rich source of information on what has not yet been resolved and healed. Welcoming and attending to our experience, turning towards instead of away from our feelings, is the key

fraser-admin November 14, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, Resistance, Shame, Thought Read more

Memory

Memory

Memory. Last week people all over the world were glued to their screens as a courageous woman who remembered every detail of an attempted rape recounted her experience. And the testimony of a man who might have been lying or

fraser-admin October 4, 2018January 27, 2020 Healing, Shame, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

Time for a System Upgrade!

Time for a System Upgrade!

We have a nervous system and primitive brain ideally suited for human conditions over the last hundreds of thousands of years. We avoid pain and seek pleasure. We instinctively pull back from fire. We avoid life threats. We evolved this

fraser-admin August 30, 2018August 30, 2018 Addiction, Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, Thought, Trauma Read more

Healthy Mind in Everyday Life

Healthy Mind in Everyday Life

As we heal from trauma, we develop strength and resilience. Our mind and system settles and we become calmer. We now know that we can’t emotionally self-regulate on our own. We co-regulate, which means we need to be around people

fraser-admin August 22, 2018 Addiction, Community, Happiness, mindfulness, Thought Read more

Resilient and Strong Enough

Resilient and Strong Enough

This week in our daily practice, we have been inquiring into resilience and strength. How does that show up in your body? Is there a toughness or shielding in your neck, shoulders and upper back? See if it feels okay

fraser-admin August 16, 2018August 16, 2018 Happiness, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought Read more

Our prize at the bottom of the Cracker Jacks!

Our prize at the bottom of the Cracker Jacks!

I offer a free daily online guided practice of meditation, relaxation, breathing and being with ourselves. We get to know ourselves in this small community of like-minded individuals. Why offer this every day? Because I know the importance of consistency.

fraser-admin August 8, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, mindfulness, Thought Read more

Calming Catastrophic Thinking

Calming Catastrophic Thinking

How do we calm ourselves when we’re worried about something? We’ll be reminded of something – maybe someone around us gets sick or we get news about our own health. It’s natural to try to figure out what to do. All

fraser-admin August 1, 2018August 1, 2018 Healing, Resistance, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

Open Your Hands and Let Go

Open Your Hands and Let Go

“Clutching your old relationship in closed fists does not work. Acknowledge to yourself that the old relationship is over. You can’t get it back. Your only option now is how much you will open to new possibilities. Open your hands

fraser-admin June 21, 2018June 21, 2018 mindfulness, Resistance, Thought Read more

Healing Trauma Retreat

Healing Trauma Retreat

  Last weekend 13 women met at Reconnect and Fall in Love With Ourselves, a healing trauma workshop retreat in a gorgeous old growth Acadian forest at Windhorse Farm. The forecasted showers didn’t happen and we had warm sunshine through the

fraser-admin May 30, 2018June 1, 2018 Community, Healing, Resistance, Shame, Thought, Trauma Read more

Hugging Ourselves

Hugging Ourselves

How do you support yourself? How do you create more ease in your body? We have reflexive responses in our body, like our shoulders coming up to our ears and tightness in the back of our neck. When we really

fraser-admin May 2, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Meditation, Thought Read more

The Compulsion to “Figure It Out”

The Compulsion to “Figure It Out”

The quote below is from a conversation at the end of a daily practice last week. Most anxiety and depression comes with intrusive thoughts and the compulsion to “figure it out”. Noticing this as a red flag is so helpful

fraser-admin March 30, 2018March 30, 2018 Resistance, Thought Read more

Join me in Calgary and Red Deer

Lynn Fraser Stillpoint

I’m excited to be heading back home to Alberta this week. Most of my work and community meets online. I also treasure these opportunities to meet in person. Friends With Your Mind, How To Stop Torturing Yourself With Your Thoughts

fraser-admin February 5, 2018April 26, 2018 Community, Healing, Thought, Trauma Read more

Covering My Ears

Covering My Ears

When my grandson was younger and didn’t want to listen, he would put his hands over his ears and chant “covering my ears, not listening to you”. It’s a strategy with some merit. Learning to work skilfully with the mind

fraser-admin January 24, 2018January 24, 2018 Addiction, Healing, Thought Read more

Silence

Silent Retreat Rest Trauma

I have a lot of quiet in my life. I live alone now, in a quiet place. I spend time in nature. Nature’s sounds feel like quiet. I meditate, in silence. My mind is mostly free of intrusive and compulsive

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What Does The Heart Know?

What Does The Heart Know?

What does the heart know? We are one unified system: our body, breath, thoughts; what we know in our head and what we know in our heart. It might be the big question in our life. What am I here

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Practices! Friends With Your Mind

Practices! Friends With Your Mind

Hot off the press! The companion guide to Friends With Your Mind, How To Stop Torturing Yourself With Your Thoughts is now available on Amazon! Is a racing mind keeping you from sleep? Go right to the practices for ruminating

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Be Yourself!

Be Yourself!

Why are some people so sensitive to other people’s opinions and judgments of them? Watch this clip from my interview with Dr Gabor Maté. People with PTSD are more susceptible to other people’s opinions of them than people who haven’t

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Heartsick

Heartsick

We are living in difficult times. It is hard to let in what we are seeing and experiencing in the aftermath of the violence in Charlottesville and the appalling response from Trump. There has also been an outpouring of people

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Your Life Without Shame

Your Life Without Shame

Shaming is meant to correct behavior. It is a way for societies to let their young people know what is acceptable in their culture and what is not. Shaming is experienced as a survival level threat because the punishment can

fraser-admin October 6, 2017March 22, 2018 Healing, Inquiry, Shame, Thought No Comments Read more

Healing Shame

Healing Shame

Shame works on a continuum from healthy to toxic. Shaming is used by all cultures to let people know the rules so they can fit in. Shaming feels intense because we must belong in order to survive. Children die if

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"I am really enjoying Lynn's small group for women healing trauma. We are a mix of UK and US and Canadian women which means I'm "meeting" people I wouldn't normally, and hearing their experiences. Lynn leads and explains practices, and you can share your experiences, or something of your life in the last week and listen to the others. Lynn's support and advice to you personally and to the others is really amazing. And she shares all sorts of helpful resources throughout as well." ~ Cait

Lynn has been an influential facilitator for me in my own personal journey in learning how to be free of unnecessary suffering and in my journey of awareness. She is a warm, present, caring, kind teacher of meditation, trauma healing, inquiry, and presence practice. Daniela Hess, Director and Educator, Yoga Farm Ithaca

I want to personally thank Lynn Fraser for the amazing work she has done for the Kiloby Center for Recovery’s Radical Recovery Summit. Lynn has worked tirelessly as our interviewer for RRS. She does it because of her love of this work and her wonderfully compassionate spirit. She has interviewed many of the most innovative leaders in the field of addiction recovery. Lynn, you have advanced the treatment of trauma and addiction. That’s a great service to the world. Thank you, on behalf of myself and everyone at the Kiloby Center, as well as the thousands of people you have helped through your own teaching and facilitating. Lynn is a great teacher and facilitator in her own right. ~ Scott Kiloby

“Lynn is unwavering in her dedication and commitment to healing the nervous system using her unique blend of body-mind practices and insightful inquiry. She humbly exhibits extensive knowledge, understanding and wisdom related to trauma. What mostly calls me to work with her, however, is because I trust her. Over the past year during group and individual online sessions her warm and compassionate presence and supportive listening style has encouraged me to vulnerably risk continuing on the healing journey, build nervous system resilience and develop greater levels of joy in my life.” ~ Alyson Adashko Raskin, Ph.D, School Psychologist, Neurogenic Yoga and TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) provider, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach

“As a 53-year-old survivor of childhood trauma, I’ve done more than my share of therapy in search of a greater understanding of myself. It wasn’t until I did a trauma education course with Lynn followed by deep exploratory work using the Living Inquiries that I can say that I found what I had been looking for. Lynn has an incredible aptitude for teaching, facilitating the Inquiries and, last but not least, offering connection and hope. I’m very grateful for the work we have done together.” S.

“I could see myself walking on the beach as a person just walking on the beach, not as a person who eats compulsively walking on the beach. Your class and words were so helpful to me on my healing journey. I don’t know if I would have recovered as quickly. That first class just helped me face it and breath into it. And now I can think of it without all that hurt and fear. So very grateful for finding you!!” K.

“I am grateful for Lynn’s sensitivity, integrity and skill as she holds the space for me to feel the fear I’ve unknowingly avoided my entire life. Lynn’s gentle intelligent guidance through inquiry has helped release the velcro that kept my thoughts welded to my gut-wrenching feelings. That welding, that glue drove my self-defeating behaviour. Anyone considering this work could only benefit from Lynn’s compassion and expertise.” L.

“I realized during these practices that I cannot tolerate silence when with other people. I feel I have to start jabbering away to fill in the empty space. Upon meditating about this, what came up for me was when my parents were fighting (often) and yelling at each other, what followed was silence (sometimes for days and days) which as a child was very threatening to me. I have sat with this realization several times and come to the understanding that silence can be safe, comfortable and non-threatening. I totally enjoy listening to others conversations and have resisted the urge to fill in the silent spaces. I am learning so very much from our daily practices and your workshops. I cannot express enough how much I appreciate and thank you for your wise knowledge, honesty and the kindness and patience you show us.” W.

Emotional Flashbacks. This video is truly life changing for me! I turned 40 a month ago & the way you explained this in just a 12 minute video, I NOW understand what the root cause of the unworthiness I've felt my entire life is/was.. I'm having quite a bit of thoughts running through my mind, but I FEEL Liberation & Freedom from the weight I've been carrying for so long... tears of happiness!! I can't thank you enough for doing what you do & making these videos accessible to everyone! I AM WORTHY & not just trying to convince myself that I am... freedom tears 💜J.

Thank you for Radial Recovery Summit. I learned so much about trauma, addiction, and recovery. Thank you, Lynn, for facilitating this amazing event. You did a superb job pulling this event together as well as interviewing the speakers. I look forward to next year's Radical Recovery Summit so I can learn more from such knowledgeable recovery experts sharing their personal experiences and knowledge. S.

I love everything i've heard from Lynn Fraser. She knows how to weave the latest of science based information on how our nervous systems work in with practical easy to follow steps. (also great info graphics). It's not even like you're hearing a technical lecture on a complex subject. (but I know because I'm studying the nervous system science and trauma healing and it is complex). She is skilled at taking the important key information from science and her experience and presenting it in a way that the mind likes to understand and how you can actually put that information into practice. Angela MacLeod

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