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No Justice No Peace

No Justice No Peace

We intuitively know that justice for everyone is the pathway to true peace. We still live with de-facto segregation and isolation from each other and experience this loss, pain and grief in both obvious and subtle yet profound ways. It

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Self-Love and World Domination

Self-Love and World Domination

Heidi Green believes everyone has the power to be truly happy and to have a loving relationship with our younger selves. “I have to be able to love little Heidi. Until you can see your own young self like other

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Cues of Safety

Cues of Safety

This week I had the honor and pleasure of interviewing Dr Stephen Porges for the Radical Recovery Summit. Those of you who are familiar with my work have heard me say many times “Safety IS the Treatment”. It has become

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I’m Not Giving Up

I’m Not Giving Up

“I’m not talking about blind optimism when I’m talking about hope. I’m talking about hope in the face of uncertainty. Hope in the face of difficulty. That sensibility is something I’ve found very valuable. The people I intend to admire

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Perception of Threat

Perception of Threat

Neuroception is our unconscious perception of danger and safety. It is an ongoing involuntary response of our nervous system and it drives more of our life experience than we might realize or want. Our system is set up with a

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Indigenous Intergenerational Trauma

Indigenous Intergenerational Trauma

How do we take in the enormity of pain in ourselves and each other? It’s like the stinky sludge in the bottom of a swamp, where we are almost used to the pervading aroma, then the wind shifts and we

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A Tentative Sigh of Relief

A Tentative Sigh of Relief

If you celebrated when the US election results were called last week, you may have noticed a change in your body this week. Many of us are talking about it. The tight grip in our stomach loosening a bit. Our

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Connecting Through the Fear

Connecting Through the Fear

What part does fear play in your life? In modern life? In the US election? In our response to Covid-19? Our human bodies evolved nervous systems that respond to threat with fear then activate survival responses – flight fight freeze

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Metabolizing Trauma Through Our Bodies

Metabolizing Trauma Through Our Bodies

“Without a clear and present focus on the body, trauma cannot be addressed.” Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother’s Hands Like many others, I have been more deeply engaged in racial justice and anti-racism since the murder of George Floyd in May

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Sharing Authentically

Sharing Authentically

Listen here if you prefer We all long for it. That moment when we share something personal and the other person “gets it”. Our direct experience is that we took a risk to be authentic, and we are rewarded with

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A Long Memory and One Goal

A Long Memory and One Goal

It seems so clear, doesn’t it? If that person would just follow my advice, they would get better, stop obsessing about that lost relationship, get their projects in on time, or not wake up hungover every Sunday. If they would

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Kindness For Our Younger Self

Kindness For Our Younger Self

Listen here if you prefer. Kindness and connection are foundations for healing. We do connect with others, but connecting with ourselves, inviting our exiled parts home, comes first. Without that, we can’t be authentic and risk sharing who we really

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A Welcome Home Call to All My Exiled Parts

A Welcome Home Call to All My Exiled Parts

I want to hear you. I believe you. I will listen. We exile parts of ourselves that are not acceptable or that feel too overwhelming to let in. They are the shame and core deficiency beliefs.  Now, we are here to

Lane September 22, 2020September 22, 2020 Compassion, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Somatic, Understanding how we work Read more

Calming Fear in Our Covid Brain

Calming Fear in Our Covid Brain

We live in intensely activating times. From fires on the west coast to political unrest, from the global pandemic of Covid-19 to the US election – we are all stirred up! We have several natural responses to a higher level of

Lane September 15, 2020September 27, 2020 Compassion, Coronaviris, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Somatic, Understanding how we work Read more

Safety IS the treatment

Safety IS the treatment

“Safety IS the treatment.” In order to heal, we need to feel safe. Dr Stephen Porges defines safety as the absence of threat PLUS a feeling of connection.  “Trauma is what happens inside us as a result of what happens to us.

Lane September 9, 2020September 10, 2020 Community, Compassion, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Somatic Read more

Notice the Rage; Notice the Silence. Resmaa Menakem #blacklivesmatter

Notice the Rage; Notice the Silence. Resmaa Menakem #blacklivesmatter

Resmaa Menakem is a therapist in Minneapolis, and author of My Grandmother’s Hands, Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies. I interviewed him in 2019 and Krista Tippet in March of this year. I highly recommend his book

Lane June 7, 2020July 7, 2020 Community, Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Somatic, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Throwing Out the Rules

Throwing Out the Rules

What would happen if you had no rules about being a good person, a nice person, or a valuable person? Would you naturally care about people? Would you want to be decent and kind?  What would you do with your

Lane June 3, 2020June 3, 2020 Community, Happiness, Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Somatic, Thought, Understanding how we work Read more

Mama Bear Energy

Mama Bear Energy

Don’t get between a mother bear and her cubs! Her protection is swift and merciless. If she sees you as a threat, she takes you out. Our fierce inner protector has more options than the mama bear standing on her

Lane April 15, 2020April 15, 2020 Addiction, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resistance, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

Are you okay being alone?

Are you okay being alone?

Something that is difficult for many people right now is to be alone. Some of this is fear about how terrible it would be to be in the hospital without people we love at our side. We feel for people

Lane April 8, 2020April 8, 2020 Addiction, Coronaviris, Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

Our Nervous System is Doing Its Job

Our Nervous System is Doing Its Job

We are all experiencing trauma right now. Our nervous system knows we are facing a life and death threat, and is doing its job by alerting us to danger through fear, tight shoulders and catastrophic thinking. It activates our survival

Lane April 1, 2020April 2, 2020 Coronaviris, Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, Resilience, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

Gratitude

Gratitude

This week I had my 67th birthday, my dog Shantih turns one, and I celebrated my one year anniversary of living in the forest at the ocean. This morning in daily practice we did a gratitude practice.  Neuroscience tells us

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No One Can Prevent us from Being Safe with Ourselves

No One Can Prevent us from Being Safe with Ourselves

It’s simple really. We need to be cared for. We need someone to see us, and love us, and keep us safe. When that doesn’t happen our nervous system knows that it’s not happening.  Cognitive understanding is important. We need

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I Need More Sleep!

I Need More Sleep!

I’ll turn off the screens at nine so my brain has a chance to settle before sleep. I’ll go to bed by ten and listen to a guided relaxation as I fall asleep. I’ll wake up early enough to go

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Friends With My Body? Really?

Friends With My Body? Really?

Do you feel good will towards your body? Do you love your body? Could you be friends with your body? For most of us the answer is complicated, embedded with lots of history and memories of past experiences. One of

Lane June 27, 2019June 27, 2019 Addiction, relax, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

Gratitude and Fear

Gratitude and Fear

The evidence is in. Gratitude practices rock! Oprah. Brené Brown. Scientists. So why do so many people find they turn stale and lifeless after awhile? It’s one more thing to tick off our already overwhelming to-do list. The promises of

Lane June 5, 2019June 5, 2019 Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, Resilience, Somatic, Trauma Read more

A Field of Energy

A Field of Energy

Settle into a comfortable position. Shavasana is a classic relaxation pose – where you lie on your back with your arms and legs a comfortable distance apart.  Become aware of your body from head to toes and the space your body is

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Type with your Fingers

Type with your Fingers

My meditation teacher commented once on how much bodily tension he saw when students typed on the computer. People put their whole body into hammering these sensitive springs that actually work best with a light touch. Try it next time

Lane April 17, 2019April 17, 2019 mindfulness, relax, Somatic, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Velcro and Teflon

Velcro and Teflon

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say “I love you” without cringing? If not, why not? What are the obstacles to loving and connecting with yourself? Why are so many people at war with themselves? Emotional self

Lane February 14, 2019February 14, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

My Biggest Fan

I Am My Biggest Fan

I love you. I support you. I’m on your side.  What gets in the way of connecting with yourself? Of being your own supporter and friend?  It feels sad to me when we can’t be our own biggest fan, when

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Healing Scar Tissue

Healing Scar Tissue

A dear friend badly burned her leg a few years ago. The skin partially regenerated but it is still sensitive and papery thin. It will never completely recover. Many people had the experience of not feeling physically safe and protected

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Moved To Tears

Moved To Tears

Reconnect and Fall in Love With Yourself, a women’s healing trauma retreat. What happens at a retreat like this? 7 women arrived Friday late afternoon and settled in at a classic old farmhouse. People are nervous before something like this.

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Memory

Memory

Memory. Last week people all over the world were glued to their screens as a courageous woman who remembered every detail of an attempted rape recounted her experience. And the testimony of a man who might have been lying or

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Fully Digesting Our Lives

Fully Digesting Our Lives

Unresolved trauma is like undigested food in our gut. We need to improve our digestion to allow it to move through. How do we do that? We could eat healthier food in an appropriate amount, in a calm atmosphere and

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Calming Catastrophic Thinking

Calming Catastrophic Thinking

How do we calm ourselves when we’re worried about something? We’ll be reminded of something – maybe someone around us gets sick or we get news about our own health. It’s natural to try to figure out what to do. All

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Empathetic Witnessing

Empathetic Witnessing

When I read this by Gabor Maté it rang true. What is also true is that we are no longer alone, helpless, and without support. We are adults now. We can stop shaming and judgment. We can be there for

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Tragic Accidents

Tragic Accidents

Death is a hard stop. We know in our heads that human bodies are fragile and vulnerable. The possibility of death co-exists with life. Our own life. People we love. People we know. It is not possible to live with

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Recent Posts

  • No Justice No Peace
  • The Adults Have Arrived
  • You Complete Me
  • Pain of Not Loving Ourselves
  • Arrested self-protection
  • Righteous Anger and Moral Outrage
  • Connection and Community
  • What could radical recovery look like in our lives?
  • Self-Love and World Domination
  • Cues of Safety
  • I’m Not Giving Up
  • Perception of Threat
  • Indigenous Intergenerational Trauma
  • Gifts We Offer We Receive
  • What We Want – What We Need – What We Get
  • A Tentative Sigh of Relief
  • Connecting Through the Fear
  • Grieving the Loss of Our Innocence
  • Metabolizing Trauma Through Our Bodies
  • Sharing Authentically

"I am really enjoying Lynn's small group for women healing trauma. We are a mix of UK and US and Canadian women which means I'm "meeting" people I wouldn't normally, and hearing their experiences. Lynn leads and explains practices, and you can share your experiences, or something of your life in the last week and listen to the others. Lynn's support and advice to you personally and to the others is really amazing. And she shares all sorts of helpful resources throughout as well." ~ Cait

Lynn has been an influential facilitator for me in my own personal journey in learning how to be free of unnecessary suffering and in my journey of awareness. She is a warm, present, caring, kind teacher of meditation, trauma healing, inquiry, and presence practice. Daniela Hess, Director and Educator, Yoga Farm Ithaca

I want to personally thank Lynn Fraser for the amazing work she has done for the Kiloby Center for Recovery’s Radical Recovery Summit. Lynn has worked tirelessly as our interviewer for RRS. She does it because of her love of this work and her wonderfully compassionate spirit. She has interviewed many of the most innovative leaders in the field of addiction recovery. Lynn, you have advanced the treatment of trauma and addiction. That’s a great service to the world. Thank you, on behalf of myself and everyone at the Kiloby Center, as well as the thousands of people you have helped through your own teaching and facilitating. Lynn is a great teacher and facilitator in her own right. ~ Scott Kiloby

“Lynn is unwavering in her dedication and commitment to healing the nervous system using her unique blend of body-mind practices and insightful inquiry. She humbly exhibits extensive knowledge, understanding and wisdom related to trauma. What mostly calls me to work with her, however, is because I trust her. Over the past year during group and individual online sessions her warm and compassionate presence and supportive listening style has encouraged me to vulnerably risk continuing on the healing journey, build nervous system resilience and develop greater levels of joy in my life.” ~ Alyson Adashko Raskin, Ph.D, School Psychologist, Neurogenic Yoga and TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) provider, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach

“As a 53-year-old survivor of childhood trauma, I’ve done more than my share of therapy in search of a greater understanding of myself. It wasn’t until I did a trauma education course with Lynn followed by deep exploratory work using the Living Inquiries that I can say that I found what I had been looking for. Lynn has an incredible aptitude for teaching, facilitating the Inquiries and, last but not least, offering connection and hope. I’m very grateful for the work we have done together.” S.

“I could see myself walking on the beach as a person just walking on the beach, not as a person who eats compulsively walking on the beach. Your class and words were so helpful to me on my healing journey. I don’t know if I would have recovered as quickly. That first class just helped me face it and breath into it. And now I can think of it without all that hurt and fear. So very grateful for finding you!!” K.

“I am grateful for Lynn’s sensitivity, integrity and skill as she holds the space for me to feel the fear I’ve unknowingly avoided my entire life. Lynn’s gentle intelligent guidance through inquiry has helped release the velcro that kept my thoughts welded to my gut-wrenching feelings. That welding, that glue drove my self-defeating behaviour. Anyone considering this work could only benefit from Lynn’s compassion and expertise.” L.

“I realized during these practices that I cannot tolerate silence when with other people. I feel I have to start jabbering away to fill in the empty space. Upon meditating about this, what came up for me was when my parents were fighting (often) and yelling at each other, what followed was silence (sometimes for days and days) which as a child was very threatening to me. I have sat with this realization several times and come to the understanding that silence can be safe, comfortable and non-threatening. I totally enjoy listening to others conversations and have resisted the urge to fill in the silent spaces. I am learning so very much from our daily practices and your workshops. I cannot express enough how much I appreciate and thank you for your wise knowledge, honesty and the kindness and patience you show us.” W.

Emotional Flashbacks. This video is truly life changing for me! I turned 40 a month ago & the way you explained this in just a 12 minute video, I NOW understand what the root cause of the unworthiness I've felt my entire life is/was.. I'm having quite a bit of thoughts running through my mind, but I FEEL Liberation & Freedom from the weight I've been carrying for so long... tears of happiness!! I can't thank you enough for doing what you do & making these videos accessible to everyone! I AM WORTHY & not just trying to convince myself that I am... freedom tears 💜J.

Thank you for Radial Recovery Summit. I learned so much about trauma, addiction, and recovery. Thank you, Lynn, for facilitating this amazing event. You did a superb job pulling this event together as well as interviewing the speakers. I look forward to next year's Radical Recovery Summit so I can learn more from such knowledgeable recovery experts sharing their personal experiences and knowledge. S.

I love everything i've heard from Lynn Fraser. She knows how to weave the latest of science based information on how our nervous systems work in with practical easy to follow steps. (also great info graphics). It's not even like you're hearing a technical lecture on a complex subject. (but I know because I'm studying the nervous system science and trauma healing and it is complex). She is skilled at taking the important key information from science and her experience and presenting it in a way that the mind likes to understand and how you can actually put that information into practice. Angela MacLeod

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