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Resistance

Connecting With Our Inner Child

Connecting With Our Inner Child

How does your inner child feel about it? From one person, this can be an invitation into curiosity and to heal disconnection. From someone else, it can indicate contempt for being foolish enough to fall for that inner child nonsense.

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Sharing Authentically

Sharing Authentically

Listen here if you prefer We all long for it. That moment when we share something personal and the other person “gets it”. Our direct experience is that we took a risk to be authentic, and we are rewarded with

fraser-admin October 21, 2020October 22, 2020 Community, Compassion, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Resistance, Somatic, Understanding how we work Read more

NYC is empty

NYC is empty

Do you feel deep down that if you don’t worry, you’ll forget about the threat and accidentally enjoy yourself then boom – it will blindside you? Do you equate worry with taking action? Worry is one of our many trauma

Lane August 19, 2020August 25, 2020 Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Resistance, Thought Read more

We will do almost anything to feel safe

We will do almost anything to feel safe

“White privilege doesn’t mean your life hasn’t been hard. It just means the color of your skin isn’t one of the things that makes it harder.” Most of our conditioned beliefs come from the dominant culture – tv, movies, cartoons, advertising,

Lane August 12, 2020August 12, 2020 Community, Compassion, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Resistance, Shame, Trauma Read more

Afraid Yes Powerless No

Afraid Yes Powerless No

We all feel fear. We don’t all feel powerless. The way we experience this crisis is not the same, and we have power to change our response.  We are in this together. I am not alone. I can do my

Lane April 22, 2020April 22, 2020 Addiction, Community, Defense Mechanisms, Inquiry, Recovery, Resilience, Resistance, Uncategorized Read more

Mama Bear Energy

Mama Bear Energy

Don’t get between a mother bear and her cubs! Her protection is swift and merciless. If she sees you as a threat, she takes you out. Our fierce inner protector has more options than the mama bear standing on her

Lane April 15, 2020April 15, 2020 Addiction, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resistance, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

Gratitude From My Older Self

Gratitude From My Older Self

Do you remember being in your teens and thinking about being old? It was disturbing to me to imagine my young healthy body morphed into a body that is arthritic, stooped over in pain, old, and wrinkled. It never occurred

Lane September 19, 2019September 19, 2019 Healing, Meditation, Resilience, Resistance, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

We Don’t Know

We Don’t Know

The truth we both fear and hate is that we don’t know what is going to happen. We long for love and authentic, deep connection with other people AND it is with our loved ones that we are at our

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Loving Ourselves

Loving Ourselves

Look into your eyes in a mirror and say “I love you”. Many people tell me they can’t do that. “That might work for someone else. Not me.” Loving yourself unconditionally might not be fully available to you right now.

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Not My Job!

Turning Against Myself

There are many things in life for which we are responsible. Fixing our parents is NOT one of them! It is an impossible task, especially for a child. Yet over and over we step up and try. We fail because

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Burn to the ground?

Burn to the ground?

Anger. Irritation. Fiery. Cold and implacable. Indignation. Righteous. Infuriated. Resentment. Tantrum. Enmity. Fury. Hatred. Violence. Blow up. Mad. Rage. We have a lot of words to describe the varying intensity of anger. Is it dangerous to feel angry? It feels

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The Key to Freedom

The Key to Freedom

The energy, sensations and feelings in our body are a rich source of information on what has not yet been resolved and healed. Welcoming and attending to our experience, turning towards instead of away from our feelings, is the key

fraser-admin November 14, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, Resistance, Shame, Thought Read more

Fight Reflex

Fight Reflex

People who love high risk sports and extreme adventures become addicted to the experience in their own bodies. A similar process happens with emotional striking out. The fight reflex and the flood of chemicals and hormones it releases in the

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Calming Catastrophic Thinking

Calming Catastrophic Thinking

How do we calm ourselves when we’re worried about something? We’ll be reminded of something – maybe someone around us gets sick or we get news about our own health. It’s natural to try to figure out what to do. All

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Tragic Accidents

Tragic Accidents

Death is a hard stop. We know in our heads that human bodies are fragile and vulnerable. The possibility of death co-exists with life. Our own life. People we love. People we know. It is not possible to live with

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Swim towards help

Swim towards help

I heard recently that when the Coastguard arrives at a rescue where many people are in the water, they first help the people who are swimming towards them. Your interest in reading this tells me you are one of the

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Open Your Hands and Let Go

Open Your Hands and Let Go

“Clutching your old relationship in closed fists does not work. Acknowledge to yourself that the old relationship is over. You can’t get it back. Your only option now is how much you will open to new possibilities. Open your hands

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Compassion is like water permeating hard dry soil

Compassion is like water permeating hard dry soil

When we water plants in dry soil, it helps to pour in just a bit of water, let it sink in a bit to soften the soil then pour in the rest. If we don’t soften up the dry soil

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Intention for Nurturing Supportive Self-Care

Intention for Nurturing Supportive Self-Care

Near the end of our online daily practices, I often open a space for intention. Someone might set an intention to touch back in through the day to the deepest stillness experienced during the practice, or to follow the breath

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Healing Trauma Retreat

Healing Trauma Retreat

  Last weekend 13 women met at Reconnect and Fall in Love With Ourselves, a healing trauma workshop retreat in a gorgeous old growth Acadian forest at Windhorse Farm. The forecasted showers didn’t happen and we had warm sunshine through the

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Attuned Empathy

Attuned Empathy

“A fundamental goal of human development is the emergence of a self-sustaining, self-regulated human being who can live in concert with fellow human beings in a social context. Vital for this healthy development is a relationship with a parent who

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Forgiving My Nervous System

Forgiving My Nervous System

Take a few deep breaths and relax your whole body from head to toes. Look at these sentences and notice your response. Someone came up behind me and I jumped a foot. I am frustrated that I startle so easily

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The Compulsion to “Figure It Out”

The Compulsion to “Figure It Out”

The quote below is from a conversation at the end of a daily practice last week. Most anxiety and depression comes with intrusive thoughts and the compulsion to “figure it out”. Noticing this as a red flag is so helpful

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Is Someone You Love Perfect?

Is Someone You Love Perfect?

Bring to mind someone you love: child, grandchild, parent, close friend, intimate partner; someone in your life now or perhaps no longer with you in person. Focus on the look on their face when they see you and smile. Bring

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Welcome!

Welcome!

I first began working with Scott Kiloby’s welcoming phrases four years ago in response to a thought “Stop in at the coffee shop up the street for a chocolate croissant.” I pulled my car to the side of the road

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Allowing Everyone To Be Exactly As They Are

Allowing Everyone To Be Exactly As They Are

Allowing everyone to be exactly as they are. Just the words can create a flurry of activity in the mind. The principle makes sense to us and it is also something we mightily resist! The intensity of our response is

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Triggered

Triggered

Do your best AND let go of the results of your actions. According to the ancients, this is the recipe for a well-lived and happy life.  We know intuitively that hanging on leads to suffering, yet often we can’t let go.

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Appreciative Joy

Appreciative Joy

Do you wish people joy and happiness? Are you whole-heartedly happy when you hear of other people’s good fortune? When someone has a baby, we are happy for them. We know their joy and wish them well. Bring to mind

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"I am really enjoying Lynn's small group for women healing trauma. We are a mix of UK and US and Canadian women which means I'm "meeting" people I wouldn't normally, and hearing their experiences. Lynn leads and explains practices, and you can share your experiences, or something of your life in the last week and listen to the others. Lynn's support and advice to you personally and to the others is really amazing. And she shares all sorts of helpful resources throughout as well." ~ Cait

Lynn has been an influential facilitator for me in my own personal journey in learning how to be free of unnecessary suffering and in my journey of awareness. She is a warm, present, caring, kind teacher of meditation, trauma healing, inquiry, and presence practice. Daniela Hess, Director and Educator, Yoga Farm Ithaca

I want to personally thank Lynn Fraser for the amazing work she has done for the Kiloby Center for Recovery’s Radical Recovery Summit. Lynn has worked tirelessly as our interviewer for RRS. She does it because of her love of this work and her wonderfully compassionate spirit. She has interviewed many of the most innovative leaders in the field of addiction recovery. Lynn, you have advanced the treatment of trauma and addiction. That’s a great service to the world. Thank you, on behalf of myself and everyone at the Kiloby Center, as well as the thousands of people you have helped through your own teaching and facilitating. Lynn is a great teacher and facilitator in her own right. ~ Scott Kiloby

“Lynn is unwavering in her dedication and commitment to healing the nervous system using her unique blend of body-mind practices and insightful inquiry. She humbly exhibits extensive knowledge, understanding and wisdom related to trauma. What mostly calls me to work with her, however, is because I trust her. Over the past year during group and individual online sessions her warm and compassionate presence and supportive listening style has encouraged me to vulnerably risk continuing on the healing journey, build nervous system resilience and develop greater levels of joy in my life.” ~ Alyson Adashko Raskin, Ph.D, School Psychologist, Neurogenic Yoga and TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) provider, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach

“As a 53-year-old survivor of childhood trauma, I’ve done more than my share of therapy in search of a greater understanding of myself. It wasn’t until I did a trauma education course with Lynn followed by deep exploratory work using the Living Inquiries that I can say that I found what I had been looking for. Lynn has an incredible aptitude for teaching, facilitating the Inquiries and, last but not least, offering connection and hope. I’m very grateful for the work we have done together.” S.

“I could see myself walking on the beach as a person just walking on the beach, not as a person who eats compulsively walking on the beach. Your class and words were so helpful to me on my healing journey. I don’t know if I would have recovered as quickly. That first class just helped me face it and breath into it. And now I can think of it without all that hurt and fear. So very grateful for finding you!!” K.

“I am grateful for Lynn’s sensitivity, integrity and skill as she holds the space for me to feel the fear I’ve unknowingly avoided my entire life. Lynn’s gentle intelligent guidance through inquiry has helped release the velcro that kept my thoughts welded to my gut-wrenching feelings. That welding, that glue drove my self-defeating behaviour. Anyone considering this work could only benefit from Lynn’s compassion and expertise.” L.

“I realized during these practices that I cannot tolerate silence when with other people. I feel I have to start jabbering away to fill in the empty space. Upon meditating about this, what came up for me was when my parents were fighting (often) and yelling at each other, what followed was silence (sometimes for days and days) which as a child was very threatening to me. I have sat with this realization several times and come to the understanding that silence can be safe, comfortable and non-threatening. I totally enjoy listening to others conversations and have resisted the urge to fill in the silent spaces. I am learning so very much from our daily practices and your workshops. I cannot express enough how much I appreciate and thank you for your wise knowledge, honesty and the kindness and patience you show us.” W.

Emotional Flashbacks. This video is truly life changing for me! I turned 40 a month ago & the way you explained this in just a 12 minute video, I NOW understand what the root cause of the unworthiness I've felt my entire life is/was.. I'm having quite a bit of thoughts running through my mind, but I FEEL Liberation & Freedom from the weight I've been carrying for so long... tears of happiness!! I can't thank you enough for doing what you do & making these videos accessible to everyone! I AM WORTHY & not just trying to convince myself that I am... freedom tears 💜J.

Thank you for Radial Recovery Summit. I learned so much about trauma, addiction, and recovery. Thank you, Lynn, for facilitating this amazing event. You did a superb job pulling this event together as well as interviewing the speakers. I look forward to next year's Radical Recovery Summit so I can learn more from such knowledgeable recovery experts sharing their personal experiences and knowledge. S.

I love everything i've heard from Lynn Fraser. She knows how to weave the latest of science based information on how our nervous systems work in with practical easy to follow steps. (also great info graphics). It's not even like you're hearing a technical lecture on a complex subject. (but I know because I'm studying the nervous system science and trauma healing and it is complex). She is skilled at taking the important key information from science and her experience and presenting it in a way that the mind likes to understand and how you can actually put that information into practice. Angela MacLeod

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