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Love Flows in Both Directions

Love Flows in Both Directions

Hurt people hurt people. This is obvious to us when we see physical, sexual, emotional abuse or severe neglect.  Children are also hurt when parents are too stressed, busy, distracted or depressed to get to know them.  To really feel connected,

Lane December 4, 2019December 5, 2019 Addiction, Community, Healing, Radical Recovery Summit, Recovery, Resilience, Trauma Read more

Radical Recovery Summit

Radical Recovery Summit

This is one of my favorite times of year. Not because of the change in season. I prefer the warming days of spring. It is because I get to interview passionate people about their innovative, radical work healing trauma and

Lane November 28, 2019November 28, 2019 Addiction, Healing, Radical Recovery Summit, Recovery, Uncategorized Read more

Kind and Compassionate With Ourselves

Kind and Compassionate With Ourselves

We have an understandable and not helpful mechanism of blaming and pushing ourselves. We think this will help us fix things. It is rooted in our survival instinct and primitive brain. When we are children, we blame ourselves for everything

Lane November 20, 2019November 20, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, Uncategorized, Understanding how we work Read more

Tall Two-Year-Olds

Tall Two-Year-Olds

When a group of adults don’t get enough sleep, it’s like a meeting of tall two-year-olds. Family get-togethers often feature too many people in a small space, staying up late, and too much noise, alcohol, and sugar. Add in entitlement,

Lane November 13, 2019November 14, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Uncategorized Read more

Inner Nurturing Committee

Inner Nurturing Committee

Who is on Your Inner Nurturing Committee? Contempt is the most destructive negative behavior in relationships. In Dr. John Gottman’s four decades of research, he has found it to be the number one predictor of divorce. The voice of our own

Lane November 6, 2019November 6, 2019 Healing, Resilience, Shame, Uncategorized, Understanding how we work Read more

The Shame of Not Manifesting Abundance and Healing

The Shame of Not Manifesting Abundance and Healing

Mindbody insights into healing can be used to shame us. People don’t generally say that there is something wrong with us if we don’t heal ourselves, yet it is a common interpretation and experience. There is complexity and nuance in

Lane October 30, 2019October 30, 2019 Healing, Resilience, Shame, Uncategorized Read more

This is NOT the Time to Meditate

This is NOT the Time to Meditate

“I sit down to meditate and my mind explodes with catastrophic thinking. I don’t get a moment’s peace from my mean inner critic. What’s the matter with me? I even fail at sitting still with nothing to do.”  Said by every

Lane October 23, 2019October 23, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought, Uncategorized Read more

Do You Have Trauma?

Do You Have Trauma?

Some of us have big T Trauma. Some of us also have ordinary trauma. Some remember what happened. Some have blocked out the memories yet we sense there is something fundamentally wrong with us. Big T Trauma is easy to

Lane October 16, 2019October 16, 2019 Healing, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Loneliness is the New Smoking

Loneliness is the New Smoking

When we have been hurt by people, we are understandably wary of giving them another go at us. Our nervous system remembers the pain and puts up barriers to protect us. The problem with letting our survival mechanisms and primitive

Lane October 2, 2019October 2, 2019 Happiness, Healing, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Compliance

Compliance

Do you ever go along even when you feel uncomfortable? In my experience, compliance is a form of freeze with some fawning to someone perceived as more powerful.  This could be in a situation of feeling peer pressure. We do

Lane September 25, 2019September 25, 2019 Healing, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized, Understanding how we work Read more

Gratitude From My Older Self

Gratitude From My Older Self

Do you remember being in your teens and thinking about being old? It was disturbing to me to imagine my young healthy body morphed into a body that is arthritic, stooped over in pain, old, and wrinkled. It never occurred

Lane September 19, 2019September 19, 2019 Healing, Meditation, Resilience, Resistance, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Mary Oliver, One Wild and Precious Life

Mary Oliver, One Wild and Precious Life

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” Summer Day, by Mary Oliver Mary Oliver was someone who was very tuned in to her system and to the natural world. Many of her poems

Lane September 11, 2019September 11, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Nervous system on red alert?

Nervous system on red alert?

“The effect of trauma is that we disconnect from ourselves, our sense of value, and the present moment.” Dr Gabor Maté We need a basic understanding of the trauma response and nervous system and of the particular way we have

Lane September 4, 2019September 5, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized, Understanding how we work Read more

You Look Just Like Your Dad!

You Look Just Like Your Dad!

When I was a teenager, people often commented I looked just like my dad. Not a welcome thought for a teenage girl! Later he researched the Frasers and gave us pictures of our grandfathers four generations back. I can see

Lane August 28, 2019August 31, 2019 Healing, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

I’m a Small-town Girl

I’m a Small-town Girl

I am a small-town girl from Saskatchewan, a prairie province in Canada that most people wouldn’t know how to pronounce let alone know where it is. I grew up in a home where I was well cared for physically. No

Lane August 21, 2019August 31, 2019 Addiction, Healing, Meditation, Resilience, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Getting To Know Our Younger Self

Getting To Know Our Younger Self

Our survival system calculates risk and the option least likely to lead to our death.  One response to danger is flight. We run. We get out of there! We physically leave the scene. When we can’t remove our body from

Lane August 14, 2019August 14, 2019 Healing, Resilience, Trauma Read more

Daring To Be Me

Daring To Be Me

We need parents who are attuned to our needs. Nurturing emotional interactions with parents are an indispensable requirement of human brain development.  Children in non-attuned relationships may feel loved but do not experience feeling appreciated for who they really are.

Lane August 7, 2019August 7, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Trauma Read more

Grieving the Losses of Childhood Trauma

Grieving the Losses of Childhood Trauma

We are cheated out of childhood when our experience is one of fear, abuse and neglect. Before we move into understanding and compassion and into being reasonable and fair, we need to acknowledge the truth of our own experience. I was

Lane August 1, 2019August 1, 2019 Healing, relax, Resilience, Shame, Trauma, Understanding how we work Read more

Use Your Body to Calm Catastrophic Thinking

Use Your Body to Calm Catastrophic Thinking

What is happening right now in the space your body is occupying? There are sense perceptions, of the air or clothes on your skin, sounds, wetness in your mouth and the movement of your body with your breath. Are you

Lane July 10, 2019July 26, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Thought, Trauma Read more

I Need More Sleep!

I Need More Sleep!

I’ll turn off the screens at nine so my brain has a chance to settle before sleep. I’ll go to bed by ten and listen to a guided relaxation as I fall asleep. I’ll wake up early enough to go

Lane July 3, 2019July 2, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, relax, Somatic, Understanding how we work Read more

The Four Right Attitudes

The Four Right Attitudes

What happens to the environment in our mind when we feel hate toward people greedily using their power for their own benefit, causing harm and destruction to others and the environment? Stress sky rockets. Our body tightens up. We are

Lane June 5, 2019June 5, 2019 Happiness, Healing, mindfulness, Resilience Read more

Gratitude and Fear

Gratitude and Fear

The evidence is in. Gratitude practices rock! Oprah. Brené Brown. Scientists. So why do so many people find they turn stale and lifeless after awhile? It’s one more thing to tick off our already overwhelming to-do list. The promises of

Lane June 5, 2019June 5, 2019 Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, Resilience, Somatic, Trauma Read more

A Field of Energy

A Field of Energy

Settle into a comfortable position. Shavasana is a classic relaxation pose – where you lie on your back with your arms and legs a comfortable distance apart.  Become aware of your body from head to toes and the space your body is

Lane May 22, 2019May 22, 2019 Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

Signature Strengths

Signature Strengths

Dr. Martin Seligman is a pioneer in the new (1998) field of positive psychology. Until then, western psychology was primarily focused on fixing what was wrong.  My meditation teacher encouraged us to “enjoy what there is to enjoy, not suffer

Lane May 15, 2019May 16, 2019 Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Trauma Read more

Solace in the Heart

Solace in the Heart

The practice below is one of nurturing ourselves with comfort and solace in the heart center. Bring to mind a moment of joy, maybe someone you love or a favourite pet and bring your attention to your heart area. The

Lane May 1, 2019May 1, 2019 Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Trauma Read more

We’re not performing monkeys

We’re not performing monkeys

Compassion arises naturally when we acknowledge truth. There is much joy and beauty in a human life and much hardship and pain.  Our culture creates pressure to manage life in a certain way, to be successful, and to maintain a

Lane April 24, 2019April 25, 2019 Happiness, Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Trauma Read more

My Most Interesting Person

My Most Interesting Person

I am the most interesting person to me. What is your first response to that?  Are any of these these familiar from childhood? “Don’t be too full of yourself!” “Who do you think you are?” “Nobody likes a show-off.”  The reasons

Lane April 10, 2019April 11, 2019 Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Shame Read more

Invitation to Rest

Invitation to Rest

I’ve had a bad cold this week, the first one in 4 or 5 years. The feeling is familiar. Fever. Sleeping on and off all day. Headache. Coughing. Runny nose. Sinus pain. Foggy brain. When illness happens our body needs

Lane March 28, 2019March 28, 2019 Healing, relax, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

3 Levels of Direct Experience

3 Levels of Direct Experience

Do we actually need that ongoing commentary about our experience? What are the sensations in your neck and shoulders? Contracted and tight? Painful? Soft and comfortable? Are your shoulders up around your ears? When you let your shoulders become a

fraser-admin March 20, 2019March 20, 2019 Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Thought Read more

We Don’t Know

We Don’t Know

The truth we both fear and hate is that we don’t know what is going to happen. We long for love and authentic, deep connection with other people AND it is with our loved ones that we are at our

fraser-admin March 13, 2019March 13, 2019 Happiness, Healing, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Resistance Read more

Embodied Healing in Daily Life

Embodied Healing in Daily Life

We figure it out in our heads long before we feel comfortable with the energy in our body. We are adults now and have the capacity to understand the sequence of events from childhood through to present day. We know

fraser-admin March 5, 2019March 5, 2019 Happiness, Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Trauma Read more

Velcro and Teflon

Velcro and Teflon

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say “I love you” without cringing? If not, why not? What are the obstacles to loving and connecting with yourself? Why are so many people at war with themselves? Emotional self

Lane February 14, 2019February 14, 2019 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Somatic, Thought, Trauma Read more

Stillness

Stillness

We notice what moves. This is part of the negativity bias in the brain. Being vigilant for potential danger helps keep us safe. Are you held hostage by your primitive brain? This can be dramatic when there is a sudden

fraser-admin February 7, 2019February 7, 2019 Happiness, Healing, Meditation, mindfulness, relax, Trauma Read more

Mindfulness Inquiry

Mindfulness Inquiry

Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Mindfulness meditation is the awareness that arises from paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally”. Mindfulness is an intimate witnessing. We are having an experience at the same time as we are aware of the

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Breathe slowly. What’s the Hurry?

Breathe slowly. What’s the Hurry?

Literally, what’s the hurry? Yogis count our lifespan in breaths, not years. The average person breathes 21,600 times a day. If you were to breathe 25% slower, about 16,200 times a day … You do the math. It adds up

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Radical Recovery Summit 2019

Radical Recovery Summit 2019

32 fascinating interviews with innovative leaders in the field of addiction and recovery. I love talking with the people in the Summit because they are passionate about their work. Addiction is so prevalent in our society and the stats for

fraser-admin January 9, 2019January 9, 2019 Addiction, Healing, mindfulness, Radical Recovery Summit Read more

Loving Ourselves

Loving Ourselves

Look into your eyes in a mirror and say “I love you”. Many people tell me they can’t do that. “That might work for someone else. Not me.” Loving yourself unconditionally might not be fully available to you right now.

fraser-admin January 2, 2019January 2, 2019 Happiness, Healing, Resilience, Resistance, Shame, Trauma Read more

A New Year

A New Year

We have moved through the longest night, the December winter solstice and now add a few minutes of light each day. The cold here this time of year combined with the small incremental change in daylight hides this from view.

fraser-admin January 1, 2019January 1, 2019 Community, Happiness, Healing, Meditation, Thought Read more

Not My Job!

Turning Against Myself

There are many things in life for which we are responsible. Fixing our parents is NOT one of them! It is an impossible task, especially for a child. Yet over and over we step up and try. We fail because

fraser-admin December 13, 2018December 13, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Resistance, Shame, Trauma Read more

Burn to the ground?

Burn to the ground?

Anger. Irritation. Fiery. Cold and implacable. Indignation. Righteous. Infuriated. Resentment. Tantrum. Enmity. Fury. Hatred. Violence. Blow up. Mad. Rage. We have a lot of words to describe the varying intensity of anger. Is it dangerous to feel angry? It feels

fraser-admin December 5, 2018December 19, 2018 Healing, Inquiry, Resistance, Trauma, Uncategorized Read more

Trauma Expert Dr Gabor Maté

Trauma Expert Dr Gabor Maté

“Trauma causes us to disconnect from ourselves, our sense of value, and from the present moment.” Dr Gabor Maté I recommend Dr Maté and tell his definition to people at least a dozen times every week. Trauma doesn’t only happen

fraser-admin November 28, 2018November 28, 2018 Healing, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Trauma Read more

The Bodyguard

The Bodyguard

Do you remember that scene in The Bodyguard where Whitney Houston is swept into Kevin Costner’s arms and carried to safety? Adrenaline is pumping. The danger is extreme and Kevin Costner is on high alert. Due to his action, the

fraser-admin November 21, 2018November 22, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Trauma Read more

The Key to Freedom

The Key to Freedom

The energy, sensations and feelings in our body are a rich source of information on what has not yet been resolved and healed. Welcoming and attending to our experience, turning towards instead of away from our feelings, is the key

fraser-admin November 14, 2018 Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, Resistance, Shame, Thought Read more

Hatred and Fear

Hatred and Fear

“Some people find relief in drugs like heroin, some are finding relief and validation in harboring hate. Both hate and addiction  are a manifestation of a society that is ill, disconnected, and traumatized. Just like addiction provides relief to people

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Redwood Forest

Redwood Forest

Forests and ocean. Stillness and movement. Space to breathe. I feel part of the network of leaves and roots, fresh air, the simple reality of nature. I was in California last week for the Science and Nonduality Conference, south of

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Healing Scar Tissue

Healing Scar Tissue

A dear friend badly burned her leg a few years ago. The skin partially regenerated but it is still sensitive and papery thin. It will never completely recover. Many people had the experience of not feeling physically safe and protected

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Moved To Tears

Moved To Tears

Reconnect and Fall in Love With Yourself, a women’s healing trauma retreat. What happens at a retreat like this? 7 women arrived Friday late afternoon and settled in at a classic old farmhouse. People are nervous before something like this.

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Memory

Memory

Memory. Last week people all over the world were glued to their screens as a courageous woman who remembered every detail of an attempted rape recounted her experience. And the testimony of a man who might have been lying or

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Fully Digesting Our Lives

Fully Digesting Our Lives

Unresolved trauma is like undigested food in our gut. We need to improve our digestion to allow it to move through. How do we do that? We could eat healthier food in an appropriate amount, in a calm atmosphere and

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The Fear Factor

The Fear Factor

How does fear affect your life? For most people, it is a long list with a wide reach. Our primitive brain is set up to ensure the survival of the species and fear gets our attention. Fight, flight, freeze kicks

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Telling the Truth

Telling the Truth

https://www.thetraumatherapistproject.com/podcast/meditation-healing-trauma-lynn-fraser/ I had a big experience of telling the truth this week. The interview I did with Guy MacPherson on the Trauma Therapist Podcast went live on Tuesday. We mostly focused on trauma and how I have worked with it

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Trauma Therapist Podcast

Trauma Therapist Podcast

Listen on iTunes episode #304 or The Trauma Therapist Website I was interviewed by Guy MacPherson for the Trauma Therapist Podcast and it went live this week. Guy is experienced and asked good questions (I’m episode #304!). He asked about the

fraser-admin September 12, 2018November 14, 2018 Addiction, Community, Happiness, Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, Resilience, Shame, Trauma Read more
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