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Defense Mechanisms

Righteous Anger and Moral Outrage

Righteous Anger and Moral Outrage

“Rage is the biological force that protects that which is loved.” Valarie Kaur We know anger as the fight response in our nervous system, the fiery energy of lashing out and fighting back. We recognize a transgression against ourselves. Someone

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Connection and Community

Connection and Community

I have been thinking about community all week. Our January groups and classes began last week and we had several “first” meetings, beginning with our Sunday classes on Trust and Connection. Thanks to Daniela at Yoga Farm, we have lovely

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What could radical recovery look like in our lives?

What could radical recovery look like in our lives?

This week we watched domestic terrorists overrun security at the Capital building in the US. Our nervous systems are alarmed and we are not sure what is going to happen – both in the next two weeks and longer term

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Cues of Safety

Cues of Safety

This week I had the honor and pleasure of interviewing Dr Stephen Porges for the Radical Recovery Summit. Those of you who are familiar with my work have heard me say many times “Safety IS the Treatment”. It has become

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Perception of Threat

Perception of Threat

Neuroception is our unconscious perception of danger and safety. It is an ongoing involuntary response of our nervous system and it drives more of our life experience than we might realize or want. Our system is set up with a

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What We Want – What We Need – What We Get

What We Want – What We Need – What We Get

“You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, well, you just might find. You get what you need.” Rolling Stones We want people to be careful with our tender hearts. We long to be seen and

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A Tentative Sigh of Relief

A Tentative Sigh of Relief

If you celebrated when the US election results were called last week, you may have noticed a change in your body this week. Many of us are talking about it. The tight grip in our stomach loosening a bit. Our

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Connecting Through the Fear

Connecting Through the Fear

What part does fear play in your life? In modern life? In the US election? In our response to Covid-19? Our human bodies evolved nervous systems that respond to threat with fear then activate survival responses – flight fight freeze

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Safety IS the treatment

Safety IS the treatment

“Safety IS the treatment.” In order to heal, we need to feel safe. Dr Stephen Porges defines safety as the absence of threat PLUS a feeling of connection.  “Trauma is what happens inside us as a result of what happens to us.

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What do you do?

What do you do?

When you feel lonely or sad, what are you most likely to do? a) Call a friend, ask for a hug, reach out to a person for support b) Eat, smoke a joint, have a drink, shop onlinec) Curl up on

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Fawning: A Trauma Response

Fawning:  A Trauma Response

We are vulnerable to powerful people who can make us feel that we are safer under their protection. Young athletes having sex with a coach or college students with professors shows the power of being singled out as promising and

Lane August 25, 2020August 31, 2020 Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resilience, Shame, Trauma Read more

NYC is empty

NYC is empty

Do you feel deep down that if you don’t worry, you’ll forget about the threat and accidentally enjoy yourself then boom – it will blindside you? Do you equate worry with taking action? Worry is one of our many trauma

Lane August 19, 2020August 25, 2020 Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, relax, Resilience, Resistance, Thought Read more

It was the first time I felt loved and protected

It was the first time I felt loved and protected

A friend of Lina’s once asked if she was afraid of her partner Eric. She was shocked and immediately said no, but wondered why her friend would ask such a question. It was only after she left him a few

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Freeing Ourselves

Freeing Ourselves

Like Pavlov’s dog, we are all conditioned. All the way through human history, our likelihood of survival has been higher when we are included in the family or immediate community. We will do pretty much anything to not get kicked

Lane June 24, 2020June 25, 2020 Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, Meditation, mindfulness, Recovery, Resilience, Understanding how we work Read more

Compliance, Defiance and Peer Pressure

Compliance, Defiance and Peer Pressure

Do you find yourself going along with something even when you feel uncomfortable? Compliance is a form of freeze with elements of fawning to someone perceived as more powerful. Do you automatically reject doing what you are told? Defiance can

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It Feels Like Grief

It Feels Like Grief

Off and on during the two months since the pandemic really landed in North America, I have noticed a heaviness in my chest. When I sit with it, it feels like grief: for people dying alone in hospitals without their

Lane May 20, 2020July 7, 2020 Community, Coronaviris, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, Resilience, Thought, Trauma Read more

Courage and Resilience

Courage and Resilience

What gets us through hard times? Reflect for a moment on other times in your life when you were struggling to stay afloat. What helped you then?  For many people, a sense of community, knowing we are in this together,

Lane May 6, 2020May 6, 2020 Addiction, Community, Coronaviris, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Meditation, Resilience Read more

Afraid Yes Powerless No

Afraid Yes Powerless No

We all feel fear. We don’t all feel powerless. The way we experience this crisis is not the same, and we have power to change our response.  We are in this together. I am not alone. I can do my

Lane April 22, 2020April 22, 2020 Addiction, Community, Defense Mechanisms, Inquiry, Recovery, Resilience, Resistance, Uncategorized Read more

Mama Bear Energy

Mama Bear Energy

Don’t get between a mother bear and her cubs! Her protection is swift and merciless. If she sees you as a threat, she takes you out. Our fierce inner protector has more options than the mama bear standing on her

Lane April 15, 2020April 15, 2020 Addiction, Defense Mechanisms, Healing, Inquiry, mindfulness, Resistance, Somatic, Uncategorized Read more

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Recent Posts

  • Righteous Anger and Moral Outrage
  • Connection and Community
  • What could radical recovery look like in our lives?
  • Self-Love and World Domination
  • Cues of Safety
  • I’m Not Giving Up
  • Perception of Threat
  • Indigenous Intergenerational Trauma
  • Gifts We Offer We Receive
  • What We Want – What We Need – What We Get
  • A Tentative Sigh of Relief
  • Connecting Through the Fear
  • Grieving the Loss of Our Innocence
  • Metabolizing Trauma Through Our Bodies
  • Sharing Authentically
  • A Long Memory and One Goal
  • Kindness For Our Younger Self
  • Shame is the fear we are unlovable
  • A Welcome Home Call to All My Exiled Parts
  • Calming Fear in Our Covid Brain

"I am really enjoying Lynn's small group for women healing trauma. We are a mix of UK and US and Canadian women which means I'm "meeting" people I wouldn't normally, and hearing their experiences. Lynn leads and explains practices, and you can share your experiences, or something of your life in the last week and listen to the others. Lynn's support and advice to you personally and to the others is really amazing. And she shares all sorts of helpful resources throughout as well." ~ Cait

Lynn has been an influential facilitator for me in my own personal journey in learning how to be free of unnecessary suffering and in my journey of awareness. She is a warm, present, caring, kind teacher of meditation, trauma healing, inquiry, and presence practice. Daniela Hess, Director and Educator, Yoga Farm Ithaca

I want to personally thank Lynn Fraser for the amazing work she has done for the Kiloby Center for Recovery’s Radical Recovery Summit. Lynn has worked tirelessly as our interviewer for RRS. She does it because of her love of this work and her wonderfully compassionate spirit. She has interviewed many of the most innovative leaders in the field of addiction recovery. Lynn, you have advanced the treatment of trauma and addiction. That’s a great service to the world. Thank you, on behalf of myself and everyone at the Kiloby Center, as well as the thousands of people you have helped through your own teaching and facilitating. Lynn is a great teacher and facilitator in her own right. ~ Scott Kiloby

“Lynn is unwavering in her dedication and commitment to healing the nervous system using her unique blend of body-mind practices and insightful inquiry. She humbly exhibits extensive knowledge, understanding and wisdom related to trauma. What mostly calls me to work with her, however, is because I trust her. Over the past year during group and individual online sessions her warm and compassionate presence and supportive listening style has encouraged me to vulnerably risk continuing on the healing journey, build nervous system resilience and develop greater levels of joy in my life.” ~ Alyson Adashko Raskin, Ph.D, School Psychologist, Neurogenic Yoga and TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) provider, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach

“As a 53-year-old survivor of childhood trauma, I’ve done more than my share of therapy in search of a greater understanding of myself. It wasn’t until I did a trauma education course with Lynn followed by deep exploratory work using the Living Inquiries that I can say that I found what I had been looking for. Lynn has an incredible aptitude for teaching, facilitating the Inquiries and, last but not least, offering connection and hope. I’m very grateful for the work we have done together.” S.

“I could see myself walking on the beach as a person just walking on the beach, not as a person who eats compulsively walking on the beach. Your class and words were so helpful to me on my healing journey. I don’t know if I would have recovered as quickly. That first class just helped me face it and breath into it. And now I can think of it without all that hurt and fear. So very grateful for finding you!!” K.

“I am grateful for Lynn’s sensitivity, integrity and skill as she holds the space for me to feel the fear I’ve unknowingly avoided my entire life. Lynn’s gentle intelligent guidance through inquiry has helped release the velcro that kept my thoughts welded to my gut-wrenching feelings. That welding, that glue drove my self-defeating behaviour. Anyone considering this work could only benefit from Lynn’s compassion and expertise.” L.

“I realized during these practices that I cannot tolerate silence when with other people. I feel I have to start jabbering away to fill in the empty space. Upon meditating about this, what came up for me was when my parents were fighting (often) and yelling at each other, what followed was silence (sometimes for days and days) which as a child was very threatening to me. I have sat with this realization several times and come to the understanding that silence can be safe, comfortable and non-threatening. I totally enjoy listening to others conversations and have resisted the urge to fill in the silent spaces. I am learning so very much from our daily practices and your workshops. I cannot express enough how much I appreciate and thank you for your wise knowledge, honesty and the kindness and patience you show us.” W.

Emotional Flashbacks. This video is truly life changing for me! I turned 40 a month ago & the way you explained this in just a 12 minute video, I NOW understand what the root cause of the unworthiness I've felt my entire life is/was.. I'm having quite a bit of thoughts running through my mind, but I FEEL Liberation & Freedom from the weight I've been carrying for so long... tears of happiness!! I can't thank you enough for doing what you do & making these videos accessible to everyone! I AM WORTHY & not just trying to convince myself that I am... freedom tears 💜J.

Thank you for Radial Recovery Summit. I learned so much about trauma, addiction, and recovery. Thank you, Lynn, for facilitating this amazing event. You did a superb job pulling this event together as well as interviewing the speakers. I look forward to next year's Radical Recovery Summit so I can learn more from such knowledgeable recovery experts sharing their personal experiences and knowledge. S.

I love everything i've heard from Lynn Fraser. She knows how to weave the latest of science based information on how our nervous systems work in with practical easy to follow steps. (also great info graphics). It's not even like you're hearing a technical lecture on a complex subject. (but I know because I'm studying the nervous system science and trauma healing and it is complex). She is skilled at taking the important key information from science and her experience and presenting it in a way that the mind likes to understand and how you can actually put that information into practice. Angela MacLeod

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