Lynn is an anchor to support your journey as you begin to live from your own innate wisdom and basic goodness.
I know it is possible to heal from our experiences of feeling disconnected and unworthy. I have.
“A fundamental goal of human development is the emergence of a self-sustaining, self-regulated human being who can live in concert with fellow human beings in a social context. Vital for this healthy development is a relationship with a parent who sees and understands the child’s feelings and can respond with attuned empathy to the child’s emotional cues.” Dr Gabor Mate, When The Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
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2020 Radical Recover Speakers.
Join Lynn Fraser as she interviews today’s leading innovators in the field of trauma, addiction and recovery. Richard Miller, Nkem Ndefo, Rick Hanson, Rachel Wurzman, James S Gordon and others bring to light evidence-based new ways we look at, treat, and begin to heal the drivers of addiction. Register here to watch free
10AM Eastern July 5 through August 30
Join us! I have waived fees for these classes during the Pandemic. Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/582534511
Like Pavlov’s dog, we are all conditioned. All the way through human history, our likelihood of survival has been higher when we are included in the family or immediate community. We will do pretty much anything to not get kicked out. What does childhood conditioning look like in adult life?
As a child you knew to be quiet when you got “the look”. As an adult in a meeting with a stern boss, you sink back into your chair, don’t contribute your ideas, then get mad at yourself for not speaking up.
Being ridiculed as a child for crying or being “too sensitive”, you went numb to avoid being shamed and manipulated. As an adult, you are absorbed in thoughts and have trouble with actually feeling. You zone out a lot. You are dissatisfied with the shallowness of your relationships and have trouble opening up with people. Looking back, you feel grief over missed opportunities for connection.
You had an unpredictable childhood and you lived for those sweet times when your family had fun together. For months you came home from school to parents who were engaged and stable then one day it shifted again. You became an expert at reading people. You find yourself with social anxiety, unable to relax your vigilance enough to enjoy being around people. Experiences turn into beliefs. I can’t count on people. I am on my own.
Conditioning is in our animal body, our primitive brain and nervous system, and it operates below the level of ordinary awareness. Enter mindfulness inquiry. Open the door and see what really makes you tick.
We form beliefs based on our experiences. A child who is seen, known and loved believes they are lovable. This is positive conditioning based on their own true experience that important people in their life know them, love them, and include them. When children grow up without a secure attachment and with neglect and abuse, we believe it is happening because there is something inherently wrong with us. This colors our experience throughout our life until we see through it and stop shaming ourselves.
Imagine that all of your conditioned beliefs are hanging out in a structure just to the left of your body. To the right is the empty space of freedom, no conditioning, free will. In this experiential nine weeks of classes, we will inquire into major elements of what keeps us mired in the sticky mess of experience and beliefs and experience the open spaciousness of freedom.
“Your life will be governed by what you continue to believe. Your beliefs paint your reality completely.
To you, it might not seem like they are beliefs. They feel like reality.” ~Scott Kiloby
We cover the essentials of “how it works” so you better understand conditioning: your body, feelings, nervous system, shame, judgment and the role of social trust and connection. You will strengthen your capacity to see through and release identification with experiences that commonly lead to core deficiency beliefs of unworthiness and unlovability – that feeling like there is something basically wrong with you.
What are your beliefs? When we look at thoughts in our mind, many of them come and go without much of a ripple. We’re going to work with the ones that cause a reaction – our gut tightens or our mind compulsively goes into catastrophic thinking. This is where the juice is. We’ll use the Reverse Inquiry to reveal what is unconsciously holding us back and the Kiloby Inquiry tools to free ourselves.
Join us! I have waived fees for these classes during the Pandemic. If you have the funds and can afford it, please donate below. As always, classes are free for regulars in daily practice.
9 Sundays 10AM Eastern July 5 through August 30
Women’s Healing Trauma
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New session September 6 – October 25
8 Sundays 7:00pm Eastern
This is a small group of 10 women. By signing up for this, you are invited to be my guest for my Sunday 10AM class.
We need safe places to speak our truth. To be listened to, believed and experience the trust that grows from a foundation of kindness and respect. These classes can be that place.
Safety IS the treatment. In this experiential series of classes together we do practices to begin and deepen trust in yourself and nurture authentic kindness and compassion within. We cover the essentials of “how it works” so you understand your body, feelings, nervous system, shame, judgment and the essential role of social trust and connection. You strengthen your capacity to see through and release identification with experiences that commonly lead to core deficiency beliefs of unworthiness, unlovability – that feeling like there is something basically wrong with you. Details
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Find Your Stillpoint
6 months to Transformation
Find Your Stillpoint begins anew each October with a small group of women. Are you inspired to make a bold move and a big commitment? Please Email me at lynnfraserstillpoint.com. I would love to set a time to explore possibilities with you.
WHAT OUR GRADUATES ARE SAYING:
“For the first time in my life I feel powerful.”
“I had so much violence in my life. This is new.”
“I’m okay with me. It’s a new way of living.”
“We feel safe with each other. We’re not defending ourselves.”
Find Your Stillpoint Program Details
Lynn Fraser addressed the Science and Nonduality Conference 2018, San Jose, California
October 28th, Topic: Friends With Your Mind: How To Stop Torturing Yourself With Your Thoughts. The mind is a system of stimulus and response, and our brain literally develops in response to our experiences. One of the foundations of being friends with our own mind is to be able to work effectively with our thoughts, with our responses to our thoughts, and with the energy and sensations in our body that are stimulated by our thoughts. We need to know the essentials of how it works to understand our bodymind, feelings, nervous system and identification as a separate self.
Friends With Your Mind, How To Stop Torturing Yourself With Your Thoughts.
Thought is a stimulus-response system. Most of us have suffered with intrusive, catastrophic thoughts when we are stressed. Or perhaps you can’t sleep or have social anxiety.
Read the book and companion Practices! book on Amazon.
“Lynn is the real deal.” ~ Dr. Rick Hanson
“I’ve sent the person I love the most – my partner – to Lynn for sessions. I leave you in Lynn’s more than capable hands.” ~ Scott Kiloby
“Hers was the most skilled, compassionate interview presence I’ve ever experienced.” ~ Dr. Bob Weathers
These are Lynn Fraser’s two books. She teaches courses and gives talks on the topic.
Click to purchase print or ebooks
Friends With Your Mind, How To Stop Torturing Yourself With Your Thoughts
And the companion workbook Friends With Your Mind: Practices!
From the Foreword by Scott Kiloby: “This is the kind of book that I truly love – one that is very simple and direct with easy to understand instructions that one can translate to his or her own experience almost immediately. I invite you to take your time and really notice how Lynn is breaking down experience into its simplest parts and then really look into your experience to verify that she has given you a map to suffering and how to heal it. She is extremely skillful as a facilitator, and has a special set of skills for working with the mind and body around trauma and addiction.”
In 2005, Lynn developed PTSD after an assault. Read more about that here: My Story – PTSD and Recovery
She now helps others heal from trauma and to reconnect with themselves. To see how she understands and works with trauma, watch this clip from an interview Lynn did with renowned trauma expert Dr. Gabor Mate. Lynn’s work in groups and with individuals is based on supporting people to safely reconnect within.
Neuroscientists are proving the benefits of meditation. School children are taught meditation to calm their minds and develop emotional resilience. Meditation can be practiced as a science and a spiritual practice. How do we get to a clear, quiet, focus within? The main obstacle for most people is an untrained, chaotic, anxious mind. As we systematically remove the obstacles, there is an ever-expanding awareness of what never changes, what is never harmed, that is always here.
Thousands of people enjoy Lynn’s guided practices on YouTube, the meditation app Insight Timer and, since December 2015, in person at 8AM Eastern in her free daily online guided practice. Click on this Zoom link at the time and join us.
The Healing Place Podcast
Thank you Teri Wellbrock for our in-depth look at trauma-healing strategies. It’s a delight to find passionate like-minded people.
Available on Apple Podcasts, Pandora, Spotify, Deezer, Google Podcasts, Podbean, and more.
Should you want to watch, we’re on Youtube as well.
Keeping it Real with Janean Podcast. Just released. http://bit.ly/2PvCCvE or on Apple Podcasts. In 2005 Lynn Fraser was punched off her bicycle by a mentally ill stranger as she rode to work one morning, which led to PSTD. She later learned that those with difficult childhoods are much more likely to develop PTSD.
I so enjoyed my talk with Janean.
It was a thrill to be interviewed by Guy MacPherson on the Trauma Therapist Podcast. I have learned so much from his guests over the years.
Listen on iTunes, Episode #304. TraumaTherapist.com
Woman Worriers Podcast
with Elizabeth Cush
I had fun talking with Elizabeth about our serious interests. Research shows that the body stores memories of trauma. Lynn Fraser, author of Friends With Your Mind, talks about safely accessing those memories on the journey to recovery.
Emotions in Harmony podcast
Anna Seewald, MEd, MPsy Have you ever had a panic attack? If your answer is ‘Yes’ then this podcast episode was made for you. My March 7 appearance on the Emotions in Harmony podcast. Panic Attacks
PTSD: People Trauma and Stress
with Crystal Farley and Heather Jackman
Lynn is an anchor to support your journey through trauma as you begin to live from your own innate wisdom and basic goodness.
Episode 32 3:4 with Lynn Fraser
Your SuperPowered Mind
April 1 Episode SuperPowerUp! podcast with Kristin Maxwell. Healing from trauma of all kinds.
Therapy Chat Podcast,
with Laura Reagan, LCSW-C
Available on Apple Podcasts (iTunes), et al.
Not Another Anxiety Show Podcast, with Kelli Walker, R.N., M.S.N.
Available on Apple Podcasts (iTunes)
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Lynn Fraser writes for the Medium Publication Invisible Illness
Lynn Fraser brings the depth of twenty two years experience teaching meditation. She specializes in holding a safe, trusted space for healing trauma in her private online sessions. Lynn lives near family, ocean and forest in Nova Scotia Canada.
She is a senior teacher in the Himalayan Yoga Meditation tradition; a Certified Facilitator of the Kiloby Inquiries, a somatic mindfulness method of healing; and founder of the Stillpoint Method of Healing Trauma.
Lynn has been interviewed on major podcasts in her field, such as The Trauma Therapist Podcast, Therapy Chat, Not Another Anxiety Show and more.
Lynn is the founder of and interviewer for the Kiloby Center’s Radical Recovery Summit, an online exploration of addiction recovery with a diverse group of thought leaders and innovators in the field, including Gabor Maté, Rick Hanson, Resmaa Menakem, Irene Lyon and James S Gordon.
“Lynn’s the real deal.” Dr. Rick Hanson, neuropsychologist and author of the best-selling books Resilient, How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness.
“Lynn has experienced a profound recognition of present moment awareness and embodies it naturally.” Scott Kiloby, founder Kiloby Center for Recovery, the first mindfulness based addiction recovery center in the US.
“Fast forward 25 years from when I first learned meditation in the early nineties. I see and love myself. I am authentic and connect deeply. My body is relaxed and a known space. Trauma is largely healed and resolved. I am mostly free of reactivity and I have skills to work with thoughts and sensation. I know from experience I can be with whatever is arising in this space and time. I feel, at 67, that I am now an emotionally mature adult.”