Relationships, Authenticity and Attachment
Sundays 10AM Eastern September 6 through October 25

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Join us! I have waived fees for these classes during the Pandemic.

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“We trade authenticity for attachment.” Gabor Maté, MD

We form beliefs based on our experiences. A child who is seen, known and loved believes they are lovable and that people will welcome their authenticity and originality. They are confident and have secure attachments, starting with parents and extending out into friendships, romantic and other relationships. I wish this was a more common experience!

We are conditioned to believe we are “less than” without a successful relationship as defined by the dominant culture that centers the nuclear family as the right kind of family. Heterosexual. Male and female parents with children. Shaming ourselves for failing to have a “you’re my best friend, love you forever” marriage is like a woman with a healthy size ten body feeling like a failure for not having a size one body. We put too much pressure on a primary romantic relationship as a cure-all and an indicator of success. What if we were to first focus on emotional maturity, learning to like ourselves, and being on our own side?

We do not live in a kind, supportive culture. Extended family support is often missing as people move away for jobs or adventure. Some parents are abusive to their children and many more are disconnected – pressured and exhausted by the demands of life. People who are having trouble “coping” are stigmatized as having something wrong with them. Anxiety and depression were skyrocketing even before Covid-19.

The rise of the nuclear family after World War Two as the ideal has contributed to widespread unhappiness, a crisis in parenting, isolation, and neglect and abuse of children. We bring our shaky selves into relationships that can’t possibly fulfill the holes in our hearts. We leave childhood with deeply held core deficiency beliefs that we are not good enough. 

We both romanticize what a relationship will bring, and have a profound distrust of and limited ability to form and sustain intimate connections. To add to that, what if you don’t match the dominant heteronormative conditioning? Until the last few decades, we never saw positive representations of LGBTQ2S+ in popular media. There are still a range of reactions and consequences for a professional athlete to come out publicly or for your co-worker to bring their partner to a company function. 

What is your childhood conditioning? What are your beliefs about relationships and what your relationship status reflects back about you? 

Children have little power and few choices – we trade authenticity for connection to make it through to being an adult. Those patterns stay with us until we see and heal them. How necessary is that trade now? We’ll look at romantic relationships, friendships, family and work. Where do you trade authenticity for fitting in? How can you more accurately access who is safe to share with? How can you widen your window of tolerance and be free to be more true to yourself? 

Join us! I have waived fees for these classes during the Pandemic. If you have the funds and can afford it, please donate below. As always, classes are free for regulars in daily practice.

8 Sundays 10AM Eastern September 6 through October 25

Women’s Healing Trauma Weekly Group

Email to be added to the wait list
New session September 6 – October 25
8 Sundays 7:00pm Eastern 

This is a small group of 10 women. By signing up for this, you are invited to be my guest for my Sunday 10AM class.

We need safe places to speak our truth. To be listened to, believed and experience the trust that grows from a foundation of kindness and respect. These classes can be that place.

Safety IS the treatment. In this experiential series of classes together we do practices to begin and deepen trust in yourself and nurture authentic kindness and compassion within.  We cover the essentials of “how it works” so you understand your body, feelings, nervous system, shame, judgment and the essential role of social trust and connection. You strengthen your capacity to see through and release identification with experiences that commonly lead to core deficiency beliefs of unworthiness, unlovability – that feeling like there is something basically wrong with you. Details

Find Your Stillpoint

Lynn Fraser’s 6 month deep transformation program

Do you have trouble sleeping because of worry?
Do you make plans for better self-care only to have them all fall apart under the stress of daily life?
Are you sick of comparing yourself to that mental list of how you “should be”?
Do you say yes when you would like to say no? Maybe you feel trapped in a toxic relationship or someone you love demands your help yet again.
Does your mind torture you with what-ifs and catastrophic thoughts?

Do you wonder when all this personal work will pay off and you’ll be free? If you can relate, keep reading! Then email to set up a time to talk privately with Lynn about the possibilities for you.