Shaming is meant to correct behavior. It is a way for societies to let their young people know what is acceptable in their culture and what is not. Shaming is experienced as a survival level threat because the punishment can
Shame works on a continuum from healthy to toxic. Shaming is used by all cultures to let people know the rules so they can fit in. Shaming feels intense because we must belong in order to survive. Children die if
Changing our perspective changes our experience. Dr Edward Mitchell is an astronaut who had a profound spiritual experience when he was in space. “The descriptions of samadhi were exactly what I felt: it is described as seeing things in their
“The sages say that the only difference between you and them lies in the nature of your thoughts and your mind. If someone tells you that you are bad or have done something wrong, you accept it then you feel
A month ago I fell and sprained my wrist. A week ago I tripped on a metal spike hidden in some grass and fell again, bruising my leg. There is the physical business of attending to injury, icing, not being able to
In the face of vast evidence to the contrary, we cling to the belief that life should be fair. Wanting something to be other than what it is, leads to suffering. We feel frustrated. Powerless. It feels unbearable. Tragic.
We all know the energy of fear. There is the “zing” of adrenaline and cortisol of our survival system preparing us for fight/flight/freeze. The emotional freeze of binge watching Netflix or going down the rabbit hole of the internet when we